by Menelaos Christophi
Self esteem is something that can be improved by systematic effort by the person itself. Below there are 10 self esteem exercises that can be followed by a couple to improve each others' self esteem and develop a more quality relationship between them.
1. The unconditional acceptance
The complete and unconditional acceptance is the most stable foundation to build the self-esteem. Without self esteem, a marriage is left in the hands of our emotions that are a non-permanent element.
2. Forget the past
You need to adopt a positive and hopeful perspective against a background where your partner has proved inadequate. Do not always refer to the past and remind your partner for his/her failures. Forget the past and try to praise your partner’s skills and capabilities.
3. Be careful on what you say
It is unbelievable how much power is contained in the words we speak - what words we use and their effect on people of our environment. The words have the power either to destroy a healthy self-esteem and personality or to reverse the negative image that someone has for himself. In your mouth is''life''and''death''.
4. Be supportive in the difficult moments
Within the storms and problems of your marriage, instead of rejecting each other, it is better to build and support each other. Being supportive will not only raise your partner’s self esteem but it will also improve your self esteem because the feeling you get when you give is one of the factors that can make you feel better and make your self esteem better.
5. Free your partner from the feelings of failure.
Free your partner from the prison of "performance and results", with the gold key that says "freedom from the fear of failure". One of the most common reasons that may impact someone’s self esteem is the fear of failure. If you constantly criticize your partner about his/her failures then in the long run this will impact self esteem. Try to be supportive and do not always judge your partner based on its performance and results.
6. Say "thank you" more often
Paying attention to your partner and saying thank you shows your appreciation, love and commitment. It will not only make you feel good but it will also bring joy to your partner and feeling of happiness that can fight low self esteem.
7. Do the right think
The sincere praise for your partner's choices helps to adopt a lifestyle with obedience to moral principles.
8. Help your partner to develop friendships.
When you urge your partner to make close friends you give others the opportunity to show their appreciation to your partner, and to your partner the opportunity to prove that he/she is very important.
9. Keep life under your control
You should not act spasmodically, with feelings of anger, impatience, and neglect but you need to take decisions very seriously, being focused in helping your partner to build a strong personality full of self-esteem. Problems will always appear in the way but you need to manage your life and also assist your partner to manage their life as well.
10. Discover dignity through the result
It is of great importance to invest in this objective - to build a better personal image for our partner - as this will help us to survive in the arena of life. Our dignity is proved by the result of our effort. Open your hands and offer love to your partner.
Monday, August 10, 2009
by Menelaos Christophi